You make an excellent point, Bruce, but I would ask you to keep in mind that this is a story about just one man who is a dear personal friend, not a story about the entire industry nor the medical advances. It wasn’t intended to be a teaching point about how the industry has advanced. In that way, since I write more about other health and fitness issues, I try to stay in my lane. I write primarily about women as opposed to men, and as a result, this is not a topic that I know deeply, nor do I have the conceit to try to write comprehensively about what is outside my sphere. I think it’s fair to say that those of us who have been through x, whatever x may be, are going to have stronger opinions and greater knowledge, and a particular take about an article like this. That said, the title was absolutely intentional. Not to reinforce mistaken assumptions but to challenge them. The man in question himself, about whom I wrote, stated flatly at the time of his surgery that there would be no more sex. This is his story. Not a story about the industry. Nor did he undergo the kinds of procedures that you reference. I don’t argue that I could indeed have spent a great deal more time researching far more broadly, but again, that isn’t the purpose of this article. This was a sweet and caring tale about two people I care about deeply, not a treatise on prostate cancer. I don’t argue your points, nor do I argue that the article could indeed have been much broader. Again, that wasn’t my intention. In many ways this was much more about a love story than about prostate cancer, and that’s the whole point. My friend Sid had become a very different person as a result of this journey and it was a grand thing to see. I appreciate your taking the time to write, and I honor all your points and the effort you take to make them.

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