You are incredibly kind, Rick. The older I get the more curious I am about my father. Ours was a complex, messy relationship, especially because of the drinking. But because we are all of us such a rich mix of gifts and challenges, it’s only fair to those who gave us the gift of life to choose to see those parts of my father which shone the brightest. We can also choose to see their struggles and issues with a kind eye and be mindful and mature enough not to blame them for the quality (or lack thereof) in our own lives. Perhaps then we know we have grown up. Perhaps. I don’t know. I do know that had he not been who he was, I would not now be who I am. That’s a lot to be grateful for indeed. Thanks very much for your warm comments.

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