Wouldn’t it be interesting, Kris, if we could apply all this Disney-esque fantasizing to our relationship with ourselves (and kindly, not in a narcissistic way), so that we are delighted to see ourselves in the mirror, delighted to be alone, delighted to enjoy our successes and learn from our failures, and be genuinely happy in our skin good bad or indifferent? How interesting it would be, then, those we attract to us for those qualities, rather than our obsessions, jealousies, and exquisite and offensive neediness? What a radical idea that we might be so personally responsible that we commit to living a superb life and learn to appreciate everyone who shows up for however long, and not submit that poor sot or sot-ess to the unreasonable and relationship-killing expectations that they are expected to live up to please the Almighty ME?

But hey, that’s just me. What do I know?

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