Wish I could agree, but this has not been my experience in the 50+ category. Almost every single man I have gone out with has lied about age, weight, the existence of hair, income, athletic ability or availability and usually a combination of all. Their first shocked comment about me:


No. Shit. Sherlock. Of course I do. The muscles are real, the hair is real, the body is just as it shows in the photos. And every single thing I claim can be easily verified online. Which is not the case with the guys, who make the same complaints about the women. Fact? 81% of people lie on their profiles. Which is almost as bad as resumes: that’s 85%. It boggles the mind.I am so monumentally tired of men who claim to be athletic and toned who waddle into Starbucks with a small animal tucked under their belts. Or a large one. The last time those boys saw the gym Kennedy was still President.

You cannot, cannot, cannot begin any kind of connection with a fundamental dishonesty. And online dating is rife with it. It’s funny and great fodder for articles, but I am beyond exhausted with the misdirection. Women do the same things. Oh it’s my hormones doesn’t account for the extra fifty pounds. If you’re curvy say so. Someone is going to love that, just like I prefer athletic and toned men, because I am.

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