Valerie,
I think that we are sold a bill of goods about what to expect while traveling. It is immensely good to see and experience and try out new things. To learn about new cultures. But unless those experiences in some way touch our center, and cause us to see and behave differently in relation to the world, then they are water off the duck’s back. We have to allow our impressions to sink in and shift us. Then, travel does its real work. The road to “finding yourself” as you say is neither easy nor enjoyable much of the time, but ultimately, it’s the only one worth traversing. Thanks for your comments.