This is a really key phrase here. What is normalized, toxic and daily for Black people is so alien to Whites. To wit: at a conference which honors Black PhD grads, one young woman lost EIGHT family members during her course work. Others had family members shot by random bullets. Can't believe it? I gotta ask what world people live in, what country folks inhabit that this kind of thing comes as a shock. Yet, there these women stood on stage, mortarboards on their heads and degrees in hand. Can't believe that either? The other day I saw a story on Linked In about the first Black female fighter pilot. My female drill sergeant back in 1971 was Black. What righteously pisses me off is that it has taken that long, not that she made it. It has taken that long. There were always and forever qualified candidates. Dr.Olivia Hooker, who died two years ago at 103, was the first Black woman in the Coast Guard. Kindly, she was qualified. Sure, it took years to open up those jobs to women, but there were qualified women AND qualified Black women from the beginning. Pardon my rant.