this hit home. I have a very difficult but also very important relationship that has been a fine teacher. Lots of pain, but important. I finally had to outright dump a longtime friend who simply could not stop saying I told you so every time I had an issue. She has had a 50+ year marriage, since fucking COLLEGE, since the fucking Sixties, she has no goddamned clue what it's like to date today. Everyone has SO much to say about what I SHOULD do based on their oh so great wisdom. When someone shits on you like that, there is no love in it. There is only the brutal need to be right at your expense.