the key words here, Kris, are that’s what love does. And that’s the distinction I’m making in this article. What Kathleen wrote was that she had stopped loving her husband years before. What you describe is precisely what I was using as a contrast: when there is love, we hang in. I tried very hard to make the distinction between a partner who willfully chooses to get ill, and that is not what happened with your husband, and you continued to love each other, which is not what is happening in Kathleen’s case. I totally agree with you. Thanks for commenting.