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The Disease of Partially-Woke Folk
When men believe they are emancipated, and they really are emotionally constipated. But that’s only part of it.
(Fair warning, this is a long article. I hope to make it worth your while.)
The other night I read two pieces (here and here) by Mark Greene, whose focus is on what he calls the Man Box. Not all men fall into that trap, millions if not billions do, certainly too many, even those who are grappling full-on with evolution. We’re all touched by it, often in ways we can’t always see. He was writing about how men, especially white men of an age, are in something of a No-Mans’-Land of figuring shit out.
That shit, if you will, is how if they (and the women who support toxic victim- blaming and sexual assault and the rules of engagement as they currently exist) don’t fundamentally change WHO they are, HOW they behave, WHAT they say and teach each other and their little girls and boys, they are now and forever part of the problem.
The problem as he defines it of our culture of toxic masculinity, which demeans women and doesn’t allow our boy children and our men to evolve outside a sick set of proscribed behaviors about what it means to be a guy.