That’s very kind of you Gae. People fling the word “authentic” around the same way they overuse the term “mindful.” After a while it’s just that much more gobbledy gook and bullshit. We have no idea what we’re saying nor the true value of those words. We sound great, which for many is the whole point. If you will forgive the term, we have “corporatized” empathy. It becomes devoid of feeling, and of the real work that it takes to earn such emotions. Like, mindfulness. That’s extraordinarily hard to earn. Many monks spend their entire lifetimes doing nothing more than attempting to reach a level of mindfulness. Now it’s a term that we bandy around as cheaply as stale movie popcorn.
To your point, and it’s a good one, Gae, it seems to me that the opportunity to truly differentiate ourselves, if you’ll forgive my language here, is to give a shit about each other. Really, really care. That is so rare with folks concentrating on monetizing their relationships. In some ways, and I know I’m going to offend some folks here, it’s a lot like multi-level marketing, when your closest friends and family become sales targets. What a way to devalue our collective humanity.
A Match.com date whom I found hugely attractive took me out to coffee and proceeded to do his best get me into his multi level downline. I was simply appalled. I wanted to throw my red hot coffee in his face. Of course I didn’t but it was such an abuse of implied trust that it was one of the many, many, many reasons I am exceedingly glad the BF lives in my basement these days. People are not a means to an end. We have deep and abiding value. Something that Steve doesn’t get.
I appreciate your kind comments.