Thanks for your thoughtful response, Ms. Carr. You might have missed the big IF in front of the well-traveled piece, which speaks to the generic "you" which is all-inclusive. I neither know you nor your background, and it would be terribly arrogant of me to assume anything. I can only make guesses based on your choice of words, as do we all. As are we all, I am doing the best I can with what you present, and am responding as carefully and respectfully as I can. Again, I can't control how my choice of words is interpreted any more than you can. I very much appreciate the polite tone; it's rare and more than you know, I value it highly. I wish you the best too.