Thank you kindly Mary. I have to underscore the fact that this story is a reminder to me as well for these two reasons: I have PTSD from mulitple rapes in the military, and on top of that, post concussion syndrome,both of which sometimes combine to cause me to do things I would not otherwise do, get snarky or ugly and do harm. I live with it, and the simple fact of life is that many of us do, and end up doing harm that we most certainly don't wish to do. That said, perhaps the only saving grace is that I am well aware of that, and when it happens, and it does if I am deeply stressed or irritated, I do my best to make amends. It's deeply humbling to show up as a jerk when you really want to believe that you are good, but that is part of being human. Even so-called saints did asshole time, and that, for my part, Mary, is precisely what allows us all to stay in a reality check, have compassion for others, and keep working on ourselves to do better.