Thank god, Tony. However to your point, it’s in code. Boys will be boys. What happens in high school stays in high school ( or college, or in the manager’s office.) It’s a wink-wink- nod-nod of acknowledgement that we’re all in this together. The good guys aren’t. That’s the whole point. If you don’t have friends like this, count yourself fortunate.
I would add the very important semantic qualifier that the word molesting, which you and I can certainly agree upon, is often traded for just having a little fun, teasing, etc. Words matter. Sometimes I think that if we said molest instead, it might change the conversation indeed.