Sue, with respect, here is what I said right up front:

Who the hell is CV to dictate to anyone what her (or his) best look is, when that has far more to do with a combination of individual taste, style, body type, personality?

The whole point of this statement is to make that very same argument. We all look through our individual lenses. I am not making any argument about fitness or anything else, and if you read that into my article, it is precisely as you say, your business and not mine. The reason I wrote this statement was to argue the very thing you’re saying.

I also said this: So much of what works is informed by the shape we’re in, not our age. Our personal style, not a number. Our quirks, not a calendar.

This statement does NOT say we have to be fit. Again, with respect, I get the rare response from folks who make the assumption that I am making a statement that you have to be fit. No, Sue. You have to be free of those assumptions (if you choose). Period. What works for you at 72 is what works for Sue. Not for me.

It saddens me deeply that anyone assigns a meaning to my writing that isn’t there. But one thing I’ve learned the hard way- we read and interpret what we want to when we parce out the messaging in others pieces. While I’m a fan of fitness for all of us, I also am sensitive to the individual conditions of each of our lives. I happen to live mine a certain way but that does not in any way shape or form mean that I assign a judgment to those who don’t live it similarly. I might use my life as a way of thinking- we write what we know, after all- but kindly don’t put words in my mouth (or into my article as it were).

Another thing I have learned the hard way, and that is that when something rises in me- anger or whatever the feeling is- when I read someone else’s pieces, that is an indicator of where I have personal work to. That’s the internal barometer that there is an issue lurking in my inner world that I need to look at, and the gift of that article is that it brought it to my attention. That’s what I do with it. Let’s be clear. I’m not saying this is true for you. It is one way I keep myself honest. What other people write isn’t about me, it’s about them, and they are writing from a particular POV. How you and I choose to interpret it is a statement about us.

But then again, Sue, that’s my journey and how I choose to live. I wish you the best in yours.

Horizon Huntress, prize-winning author, adventure traveler, boundary-pusher, wilder, veteran, aging vibrantly. I own my sh*t. Let’s play!

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