Some of the bravest folks lately are people who have eschewed their KKK affiliations and come to the realization of how wrong they were. Those folks are beacons of light. That takes a shitload of courage because in that way we do indeed have to deny our family. It takes a far more mature mind to understand that saying that those who brought us up were wrong but that doesn't mean we don't love them. The inability to embrace those subtleties is part of the problem. My social media guy has a White Supremacist Trump thumper climate denier for a grandmother. He didn't stop loving her. He's just has to allow that this is who she is while he continues to grow and evolve in the Real World. Genuinely intelligent folks can hold those subtleties and dichotomies in their hearts. Brutally stupid people cannot.