Shefali, as I just wrote to another commenter, I had no issue holding this kind of space. However, with two friendships, this woman included, Trump wasn't the only factor. Her attitude about Covid horrified me, not just because of the nurse friend but because I too had lost people. She and her husband were completely isolated from what was really happening, they had the funds to insulate themselves and they further insulated themselves from a great deal of truth and heartbreak. I wish it were as simple as just disagreeing on politics, but it isn't. There are many layers here, each of them indicative of a fundamental and untenable break in where we align on values. That's to me very different from just politics, wherein, as someone who once lobbied at the highest levels of politics, I never had an issue with differing views. We have in too many ways become a country of fanatics, and in this case if you aren't as fanatic as someone else then you're with THEM. The absolutism is the problem, not the differing views. I don't argue your point, but as with several of my friends, the breakdown was across multiple areas, to the point where the only kind thing was to let go lightly and choose to love at a distance. Not my choice, but it's my life, and I have limited time left. I love a good debate but not one fueled by hate.