Rebecca, I have to utterly and totally disagree. I am glad you found your soul mate. Good for you. From the many comments on the stories I've done on the topic, and what the research indicates, lies are commonplace because of projection. I'll lie because wink wink, nudge nudge, she did. NO. It's so out of integrity at every single level. That is how I have ended up canning online dating entirely, because the lying is so prevalent, so appalling, that it has ended up an exercise in futility. In my case, being a teetotaler, no glass of wine makes it okay. You lie, I am shimmying my skinny ass out the bathroom window. I've done it. Doesn't make me right for anyone but myself, but I will not condone a lie, because one follows the other sure as spring follows winter.