Precisely. Just as how I have treated previous loves is a good indicator of how I am likely to show up — albeit this is in fact tempered by whatever commitment I may possess to watch my proclivities, mind how they show up, and manage them like a big game of Whack-a-Mole. All I ask for is enough wisdom to catch myself just about to be a jerk and have enough sense to slow down, take a breath, and choose differently.