One would hope so, John. However in our society, such men are often tossed aside, as are many equally good women who don’t fit the classic beauty model for the same reasons. The notion that being handsome, tall (etc etc) makes someone good is as much a lie as assuming that if a woman is lovely (and young, and shapely, blah blah) also makes her an angel.

To your point, my mother spoke every so often about a man whom she admired, a guy who was apparently bright and handsome and ALL THAT, who married a woman who had buck teeth and apparently a few other appearance deficits- a nice way to put what my other called butt ugly. She was simply horrified that he would stoop so low. Right. On the basis of her looks. No matter that- again to your point- she clearly possessed qualities of immense importance to this man. It is a statement of our times, our warped values, our inability to see character as opposed to external content that so many of us end up wickedly unhappy.

I have been drawn to all types, all sizes, colors and shapes. Dated a guy who was 5'2" to my 5'9". Pudgy. But smart and sweet and funny and grand company. I was in my thirties at the time.

The man I’ve been with now for nearly 11 years is balding, his chin is receding, and even though he works out, a few too many donuts expand his belly a bit. However he’s damned handsome to me. That’s because of his manners, his brains, and a great many more characteristics that will stand the test of time long after the last hairs fall out and the ceiling lights bounce off his dome.

You’re right. My intention was to simply make a point. But you and I agree o this, John.Thanks for your observations.

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