Oliver, every so often I need it myself. I was having a bit of a hard time with my BF, and reread it. As in, physician heal thyself. We ended up having a superb, deep, thoughtful and respectful discussion last night- we are only six weeks into living together after 11 years- and it has opened up a brand new level of connection. I am immensely grateful for his willingness to talk, because when we go off and invest in our stories about how we want this or that and aren’t getting it, we have no clue what’s going on in the other person. I’m nearly always wrong. When I trust him to show up, he does. As I do for him. Our stories almost always get in the way. The truth is usually something else again. You are so welcome, and I appreciate your input.