Not without a very large dose of humor, Eli, I had great fun chuckling at your comment about spending our twenties figuring this out. My god, most people I’ve met well into their sixties and seventies are still acting like they’re in high school (I give you each of all of my high school reunions as living proof). What makes each of us different is the willingness to be something of an outlier- to do the hard personal work to own our shit, to laugh at our egotistical flailings, to never take ourselves seriously, and to absolutely positively stop trying to be what and who we are not- which is everyone else BUT us. My favorite men are those who have relaxed in their skins- any color, any size, any type. But they have stopped trying so hard to be anything other than their unique selves. Same with my fave women. It takes a lot of strength and road rash to get to that level of comfort- the unapologetic enjoyment of being US, however we make it through the world. Again- it’s not about arrogance. It’s about learning to be playful, be genuine, and find a way to make a difference. Cheers to you too.