My take? She was probably blinded by rage and triggered and VERY much wanted you to feel the same. DON’T give her that power. Her shit isn’t yours to carry. I know you know this, Alexandra, and I know it’s hard, but I would point you to some writing by Gillian Sisley who made some comments- her opinion- about one Rachel Holly. Gillian promptly got hostile comments from our sisters, which only goes to show that when you touch a hot point, it doesn’t matter who it touches. People come out with claws on, and when you write something that peels back the covers on their shit, they really want you to wear it. It’s suddenly your fault that they have to face something ugly.

Nope. Clearly they needed to read it. That’s why the reaction was so hostile, my opinion.

Not your problem. Not your issue. DO NOT let her shut you up. I’ve tagged your article for study and later response ( I’m in the middle of moving to another state right now) and I can’t wait to spend more time with it. She is her own problem. Not yours. She does not have permission to shut you up unless you give her that power. Please don’t.

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