The silence seemed to be stuck, and then, finally, he began to speak. He was hurt … but not for the reasons I thought he would be. He didn’t care that I wrote the story or published it or that our friends and family would potentially read it some day. He didn’t feel that I portrayed him unfairly or as a bad person.
My ex- and there are many reasons that he is now an ex- had the exact opposite reaction to few stories I let him read. He got angry, accusing, defensive, ugly, bitter and monumentally childish. Instead of acknowledging that we had things to discuss, suddenly everything was my fault. How dare I. Blah blah blah.
It was a huge hint of what was to follow. What a sad statement about his all important ego, as opposed to gaining insights about my inner world. But then, that is why he is an ex-. Your husband possesses courage. My partner didn’t.