Michelle, as a friend to more than one Black friend, I totally get this. TBF (Token Black Friend) status seems to carry with it the perpetual burden of explaining things cc to people who don’t seem to possess the common sense to befriend a shitload of people, including those of color, so that so much of all this isn’t such a big damned surprise. Being gay, or Hispanic, or whatever isn’t White and straight.
I hear you. No answers, but I’m attending.
My inner circle, which is a rich mix of just about everything, is all burnt out for the same reasons.
Being Black doesn’t need to carry the additional burden of explaining Black.