Melanie, all your points are in the article. EVery. Single. One of them. Every one of them. The word "deserve" is clearly explained in the article, multiple times. I cannot control how you hear the word, and while I absolutely get what you are saying, with respect, you completely missed the point. I feel for you, I do. But you missed the point. I am not going to pull out those many paragraphs that specifically speak to the very points you make. You can read them. They were always there. This piece touches on an extremely high-level spiritual concept, a difficult one. Not for everyone. And I am not going to change the wording. It's there for a reason, and there isn't a single shred of moralizing in the entire article except that which is directed at shamers. This is a tough journey. But we read and hear what we are ready to read and hear based on where we are. I read what you said, I did consider it, and the article stands as written. It is doing precisely what I intended. If you hear moralizing, that is not my voice.