Loved this. This is such a great piece of work about how we attract what versions of ourselves that we put out there. Bravo. I am re-entering that same world at 66 (yah go figure) and this made me think about what I say, too. There’s a fair bit of stay-away language that has every single thing to do with a nasty dump job by a previous BF. This is what I love about Medium writers- there’s a good bit of truth in what we all write, and it resonates. Many thanks. PS I LOVE the “NO TOURISTS.” I think you inspired an article. If so I’ll copy you on it