Jen, I am delighted this worked for you. And I am happy to leave this on here. What I have trouble with is her choice of words, and the pitch, because of what it appeals to in women. That is what these other commenters are responding to, which is important to note. That this works for you is fine. However the appeal, and the specific wording of this appeal, speaks directly to a patriarchal stereotype that is dangerous for women and cuts us off at the knees. I removed a previous commenter because she was caustic and ugly. Your experience is a perfect counterpoint, but I might note here that any time we perpetuate the false narrative that we need to hand over the reins, that perpetuates a terrible lie. That is what I have a hard time with. We are not the weaker sex, and we are not in need of saving, and we are not in need of anyone to take over the reins. We need to do that for ourselves. If that’s where you are, good. That’s not what the wording on her profile either states or implies, and again, the other commenters largely see what I did.

This is not 21st Century messaging, Jen. But if it worked for you, have at it, and I am very pleased you found a partner.

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