James,

Thanks for your comments. As we all do, you read this article through the prisms of your experiences and your background, your prejudices (as we all do, James, it’s inevitable) and your POV.

It’s good you’re proud that you don’t have wrinkles or bulging biceps.However, with respect. I think you may have missed the whole point. This isn’t an article about wrinkles per se. It’s about my experiences with abusive, angry men on line. One just happened to choose wrinkles as his weapons. It could have been my hair, or something else totally innocuous. He wanted a target so that the could take out his vitriol on someone he doesn’t know, will never meet. I’m calling out bad behavior.

I struggle to figure out where you get the idea I have a lot of money. I get by on a veteran’s pension, and if I get paid on Medium. I am rebooting my small business but there isn’t an income to speak of as yet because my sales cycle is long, and my kinds of clients take hard work to earn. It’ll come but right now it’s a work in progress.

While you have a right to your point of view I also struggle to figure out where you get that I feel “guilty or inferior.” I am simply making a larger point about abusive men who take out their anger on women on Match.com.

Your body responds differently to work and to aging. We are all unique universes, James. That’s part of our human journey. It’s also why comparisons are odious, as we are each gifted with a unique set of genes and DNA. It’s just different. Not better, not worse, just different. What we do with what we’re given or the time we have is up to us.

I understand your points, but this isn’t a story about wrinkles. This was a story about a jerk. Congrats on your much younger wife. My BF is 17 years younger, but that doesn’t mean much. We happen to share a great many fundamental vales. His age has nothing to with who he is nor does it make me anything special. I can only speak for myself in this regard; its his character, not his age, that makes him interesting. I wish you the best and again, thanks for your comments.

Horizon Huntress, prize-winning author, adventure traveler, boundary-pusher, wilder, veteran, aging vibrantly. I own my sh*t. Let’s play!

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