I've written in the past about Match.com and the trials and tribulations of an over-sixty badass (not an exaggeration, I do extreme adventure travel) who is also a lifetime bodybuilder with one hell of a resume. I am NOT on anyone's wish list, therefore I have been single all my life but for a four year marriage in my forties. This was an excellent article, Carlyn, and it tracks with what I observe. I have long given up on dating, most especially online. I hit 70 next month and by all measurements, I am out of the market. Men in my age bracket, despite the point about Boomers, are typically not motivated to be with someone who has done Kilimanjaro and that was just the beginning.

I have someone 17 years my junior who remains trapped in the matrix you describe, but he hasn't given up wanting me in his life. When I am there, I am resented; when I am gone, I am missed. That's not my problem, it's his. The journey to being able to accept the agency I have in life has nothing to do with me. We are in the midst of major change which is exciting and freeing. Whether or not things will move fast enough so that I get to spend time with someone I love is doubtful, but in lieu of that, I continue planning extraordinary adventures all over the world.

The world is changing and I am all for it. It's rough being in chaos but there is an opportunity for all of us to rewrite the scripts.