I've made many of the same mistakes. I've not had sex for nearly three years and all that energy spent on trying to be sexy for some dick has been redirected. Being sexy has been twisted into thin, white, young, beautiful, blah blah. Honestly, MK, you just lit up the deep discomfort I feel when I look at my LinkedIn feed on diversity and all these lovely bodacious Black women with clothing on that advertises one thing only. While I don't argue that they can dress as they like, the messaging is VERY clear, and it's also received loud and clear. If I commented on it I would be tarred and feathered. It's not my job. But I notice. I also noticed that as I've released any need to be sexy, I have oodles of energy and time to spend on becoming a fully developed human being. All to your point.

This is hard, and an angle that kind of tickled at me in the background in that way that you sense something but can't name it. Brave, and well done.