I’m not sure I fully understand some of your points, but I do get that it’s immensely challenging for any of us. I think that the demand to have nice things (do we really need them?) creates pressure on all parents, especially those in America where things are so much more expensive. If this is a lifestyle you Have To Have, then we are indeed telegraphing to each other that we have to work long and hard to have all those nice things. Somebody suffers in the process. I think there’s a lot to be said for ratcheting down the perceived needs for the best of everything, which reduces the pressure on everyone. But that’s just me. These people do still care about each other a great deal, but the consistent problem over time had much more to do with broken promises. That damaged my relationship too-every single major promise made was broken. So there is no integrity, no trust. No trust, no love. No love, no relationship. I think each of us needs to draw a line somewhere in terms of what our priorities lie. Thanks for your comments.