If you ever ask where this comes from, and I most certainly do, Lillian, then you have to question where our self worth finds its basis. In a patriarchal society, it’s based in whether or not we have a man. That messaging starts very very early. That creates intense competition, it sells a shitload of products to make us lovely, beautiful etc. all in competition with each other to get said man. It’s a highly effective distraction from our own power- which is in part to create life, for which we need sperm, which these days we can get on our own without a relationship. That said, as we age, and I most certainly am again, while I appreciate men, and I love sex, good sex at least, I also do not need to be defined by the presence or absence of a man. That threatens a lot of men for that very reason-they lose their perceived power. Isn’t it a pity we can’t just meet as partners, take away the catty competition, and collaborate to make the world better? Try reading When God Was A Woman. It’s an eye-opener. Thanks for your comments.