I would add one more thing: being in touch with one's emotions is not common for much of any of us, irrespective of age. That requires Deep Work, and most folks eschew it for it is exquisitely uncomfortable. That is why in my profile I state that I own my shit. Deep Work is a life line and a full time commitment, it means living in relative discomfort most of the time because being even marginally aware is deeply disconcerting. It's not for everyone and I would argue not for most.