I hope you could hear the Bully for you that I screamed multiple times while reading this.

While I am going to pen my own treatise on the subject ( although not along political lines )I will show my hand here. I believe the human race suffers from two great and fatal addictions (and kindly these have little to do with rehab centers, although they should):

The need to be right at all costs ( and for you to be wrong, by god)

The need to feel superior ( you pick compared to whom, the list is endless)

From these two often intertwined addictions come our most entertaining and bloody religious wars, wars in general, genocide, slavery, animal abuse, divorces, dissolution of friendships and families…again, the list is endless.

I will save more for my article. However you perfectly outlined how it plays in politics. One reason I believe Hillary Clinton is so disliked is her bullheaded refusal to accept responsibility for a mistake, a wrongdoing, an outright lie. She died in a ditch to be right at great cost to us all. Trump lies with impunity. But that’s for someone else to take on. Each of us can think of people in our lives who would prefer to be flailed with a cat ‘o nine tails than admit they were wrong.

I learned many years ago that I could swiftly diffuse a conflict simply by saying, “you have a point,” or, “you might be right.” It takes all the air out of the expanding blimp of righteousness. All of a sudden there’s space, the validation of another way of seeing. Completely shifts the energy. I don’t have to agree. However, the more powerful person makes room for others to exist.

In a world where there is no black and white, only a quadrillion shades of grey, there is a crying need for emotional maturity. When we can acquiesce with dignity, learn from others, be willing to admit that ultimately most of us know very little, we all win. In the grand scheme of things, there’s no pain in admitting that either we don’t know or we’re wrong, or put less threateningly, “we’re still collating “( I believe that line came from Alien). The more I learn the more I realize how very little I actually do know. I can only speak for myself but I’m not willing to die in a ditch over my own ignorance.

Thanks for an excellent piece.

Horizon Huntress, prize-winning author, adventure traveler, boundary-pusher, wilder, veteran, aging vibrantly. I own my sh*t. Let’s play!

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