I have to find it, JW, but I read an article a while back that actually said that complaining can be remarkably healthy. I gotta find it, will fire it your way. There's some real wisdom in that- and that of course isn't to say that bitching as a way of life is valid, but being CLEAR about the shit that's going down is very different from finding the bad in every single thing. Finding what's possible isn' t the same as focusing on the positive in every single situation, because sometimes there is nothing positive about the situation (Exhibit A: current Supreme Court arguments about abortion, but don't get me started). Shit is just shit sometimes. And you can dig for a fucking pony, and only hit the concrete floor for all your shoveling.