I gave this further thought, and here’s what came up for me. If those skills and attributes were used to full effect, I’d still be a fan of helping him write that book. Therein lies the problem. If he’s so good right now at using all those attributes to create relationships that make him successful, then as someone he clearly had decided had value to his rep as a co-author you’d have thunk he would have worked a bit to maintain a connection. He didn’t. He did remind me a few times that we were going to do that book. However he didn’t do anything to motivate me in that direction. After a while you get the message that what you can do for him is your value. Nothing more. That’s not winning people’s esteem. Not at all. Just the opposite. I’ve gone from friend to commodity whose only use is to help the man look good. That’s not skillful at all, at least in my case. As for how he maneuvered others to support him, I give him all the credit in the world. He’s obviously good at it. Again, I’m not privy to his motivations.

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