I don't argue. BTW I loved Kiwi land so much that I moved to the PNW, which is as close to living there as I will ever come. Lovely place. They got me addicted to real British tea. I had cousins all over the islands.

As for my pain, hell. I've found a deep well of humor as I deal with those things, and if anything, my healing came out of the laughter. Sorry about the failed marriages. I did just one brief one. Likely the early history didn't much help. But I have a knack for drawing assholes out of the "community." I'm happier massaging very large animals.