I do both. That's the piece: it doesn't HAVE to be one or the other. What drives me mildly crazy is that we have to make a choice between the two. Being a very serious adventure traveler, homeowner and uber responsible adult, I have a finger in a lot of pies. My problem has been finding someone who doesn't find that intimidating. I do not NEED a man. I'd like to have a responsible one around....and not all the time. Don't leave a mess in my pristine fucking house. Clean up after your goddamned dog. Don't leave dishes in the sink. What part of leave the house as you found it is so goddamned difficult for you? I AM NOT YOUR MOTHER. I AM NOT YOUR WET NURSE. GROW THE FUCK UP.