I agree with the idea here, Melodie, but I think you may be taking this a bit far like a taffy pull. It is indeed in the eye of the beholder. What I am referencing is, for example, if someone writes something that is offensive to them as a religious person. Then, if the author causes them pain, I wouldn’t keep reading. Not their author. Just as I don’t read porn as I find it offensive. It’s a matter of taste. That is not to say that if someone holds a POV that is challenging to mine, I should dump it. Hardly. I regularly read people who take me places where I squirm internally, but my process is to question why. That’s where we grow. Bottom line is that you and I are unlikely to change peoples’s minds in general. I’ve read all kinds of anti-racism articles which can on occasion be hard to read. I read them anyway, because I choose to grow. My views have changed. However, when someone intends to hurt, offend or do harm, that is a clear and distinct difference. People who leap to conclusions or willfully take things out of context to do little more than hijack your thread for a bully pulpit, which has become rampant lately, is different. When I use the term “offensive,” I don’t mean it in the sense that we simply don’t agree with it. I mean it in the way that it is intended to do harm. To wit: I used to get lots of Facebook memes asking me to donate to animal causes where in the folks sending them out would photoshop photos of dogs with their paws cut off. THAT is offensive to me, and I can’t get those images out of my brain. I left FB for that reason and when I went back on I refuse to accept any friend requests . Offensive of course covers a broad spectrum. The grey areas between us aren’t offensive; they are places to explore and grow. Again, Melodie, I have written a great deal about this on Medium. I am very clear on my stance. Now I have to go to sleep. It’s heading to midnight in Nairobi and I have an early morning.