I agree. I am sad for any gross overgeneralization, which is why I specifically identified those many good men who do not suffer these issues, for which I am grateful. As I writea about regularly, make fun of regularly and use for comedy fodder always, I own my shit. Nobody else does. However I am not likely to continue the search at this point. There are so few men close to my age who share my commitment to fitness, and most are married. I will likely be quite happy with just friends, and in so many ways, that is quite enough. .