I agree completely, Alan. There is a value set to which I adhere which has little to do with fleeting beauty or youthful handsomeness. Those values are the bedrock on which I stand. Those who don’t share them: things like integrity, courtesy, respect, loyalty and the like- are not going to be happy around me. My ex wasn’t largely because he ulimately turned out to be an excuse man who had no integrity at all. The external is window dressing. What lasts is there when the scaffolding falls away, and one sincerely hopes that the human that ends up being your partner, albeit forever a work in progress, at least shares the bedrocks that feed your soul.