How Much of Me Do I Have to Give Up to be Loved by You?

The seminar was for couples, many decades ago in Boulder. All I recall of it is the title. It has stuck with me for thirty years because of its raw truth. The reason it came up for me today was because of an email that I received this morning from my BF back in Denver.

I had written him that I was very ill here in Borneo, just before I headed to the local hospital. His knee jerk reaction — which I find very common among men- was to fix things for me. I don’t need that, don’t want it, nor did I require saving. In this relationship, I’m the world explorer. All I wanted was…