Has nothing to do with you Maggie. This is YOUR growth path. When I read something in an article that pisses me off it has nothing to do with the author. NOTHING. All that says is that Maggie or Gillian or whoever put something in my face that I didn’t want to look at but I sure as hell needed to. The Universe doesn’t give a flying shit if I don’t like it. The point is that your words forced me to look. That’s a gift. If I don’t have the moral courage to see that, it’s not your fault. It’s MINE. Every author on here who has ever caused me to rise in anger also caused me to take a careful view of my inner world to ask, Now where the fuck did THAT come from? You and I cannot own other’s reactions. That’s their stuff. Not ours. You owe nobody an apology unless you intentionally caused hurt. If someone felt insulted, kindly, that’s their work. Not yours. Because if your intent is to educate, inform, speak from the heart, you didn’t set out to unleash someone’s intestines onto the floor, like so many of these commenters. That’s a whole ’nuther ball game. They DO intend harm. Imagine the self hate it takes to do such a thing to someone they don’t know. Just. Imagine.

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