Given that most of us suffer badly from Psych 101, Projection, it stands to reason that bothering to take the time to ask a partner what they want vs what we want might just lead to better communication. GAH Kris. We are so self-centered, and given that, it seems that the first “act of service” is that we stop being so self-referential, and so focused on ourselves, so that the needs of the person we deem our beloved might just swim into view.
This makes me think of a person who is attempting to take a selfie with the both of them in it, but ends up only framing the photo around him or herself. Unintentional, but the message is there. It’s all about the almighty ME. There’s no room in here for anyone else. (that was my ex, BTW)
Of course the other side of that, of which I have been most guilty, is that I have lost myself in giving it all away, without setting any boundaries. The lessons we learn. It takes what it takes. No wonder I still prefer dogs and horses but it’s damned hard to fit a pony in the bed.