First, I state in clear bold text. GET TESTED. Then I go on to discuss in several paragrapsh about being informed, meaning ALL of us, being educated, meaning ALL of us, and all partners, meaning ALL of us, Michael. You read shame into this that isn't there; that's your filter. And your first responder is right. This was never intended to be a comprehensive, all-encompassing article about sex ed after sixty. That is up to the reader of all genders, all ages. It's not about you, Michael, not is it solely about men. If you read that into the article then I would respectfully ask you re-read it without the defensiveness and read it to understand. There is plenty in here addressing both men AND women. I don't argue your points but your points are completely off as regarding this particular piece. You argue that we shouldn't shame men about condoms; well, read the other responders. Their stories align with my own experiences. Men resist them to the DEATH. And plenty have died as a result. That arrogance is deadly. All men? No. Didn't say that. But too many. And it remains a rampant problem all over the world. Are women equally responsible? We should be, and that's clearly outlined in the article. However, a responsible woman wanting a man to wear protection with a man absolutely refusing to do so is likely far more common than the other way around. This is A story about someone I know, which allows me to make some general points about sex after sixty. I make no claims implied or stated that this is EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW. I do make it clear to get tested, and to get educated.