Dr. T,

I was reading this again this morning and what struck me about this is how rarely so many of us can approach this level of honesty. I agree completely that this is gracious, kind, respectful and highly appropriate. On the other hand, one of the challenges, and I wish I had the answer to this, is whether or not any of us is willing to do the personal work to discover what indeed is right for us, and then, be able to see what isn’t when we’re in front of it. This calls to mind a story my BF told me the other day when he overheard a female trainer at his gym discuss her boyfriend. The boyfriend who has beaten her senseless three separate times, and she was complaining loudly that the police wouldn’t remove his ankle sensor. Do we know what we need? Sometimes I genuinely wonder. I truly do. Our idiosyncrasies, our complex emotional landscapes, the junk we have in our trunks, sometimes I really do wonder if we know what we need. Maybe that is what she needs. Far be it for me to say, or to judge. But that strikes me as one heck of a price to pay for company. That’s just me.

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