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All Right. I’m Hijacking This.

An unabashed theft of good material, with attribution, and with a few comments added of my own

Every so often I get something really good from one of my fave writers (in this case, Kris Gage) and it inspires me to comment. Then I write too damned much and it ends up being an article.

As I like to share good things, here is Kris’ article about how to use Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages to take care of yourself. Read it. As with all her stuff, it’s worth your time. Here’s my response below:

To this great list, Kris, I would add the following:

1. Choosing friends and partners who actually possess a love language in the first place. Lots of folks don’t. Sometimes they’re called exes.
2. Never ever ever ever ever ever take (him/her/them, the abuser) back. Reread your journal and your Medium articles right after that breakup if you happen to suffer from selective memory, or self-hypnosis or a serious case of self-flagellation. Get a buzzer and a teddy bear, you’ll be a lot more satisfied in most cases.
3. Find your funny. You don’t have a sense of humor, you don’t have a life.
4. Stop giving such a huge shit about what others think, especially trollers and…