Again Tony, very sage words. The simple truth of it is that we really aren’t that important, and the harshness of that reality does two things: it’s immensely humbling, which, given the sloppy stumblings of our self-obsessed egos is a wondrous thing indeed. Second, it forces us to concentrate on what really matters: being the best we can be within the parameters of our own lives. Sometimes those lives taken on vast meaning (a Ghandi, a Mandiba, a prisoner who starves out of protest). But for most of us we are meaningless, except to those who need and love us. Those lives we have immense potential to improve, expand, and enjoy. When we stop trying to be the next biggest thing on social media and attend to the things that matter: love, friends, our work and our work on ourselves, life expands exponentially. The implicit lie of Facebook and social media is that we are such a big deal. Um, no we’re most folks. But we can be to the ones that matter.

Your comment about needing to score points (at someone’s expense, it’s inevitable) speaks to so much of how we all are. People descend into snit and shit-flinging contests not as a way to engage, inform, share and/or expand each other’s knowledge, but to simply prove they are right without regard to the damage done. The number of opinions changed by Facebook memes? Um, I rather guess that the percentages are pretty bad. The number of lives changed when we devote ourselves to our work, loving others, finding what’s good rather than what’s bad, showing up and being present and authentic especially when it’s hard? Let’s do the math.

You nailed it. It’s a journey. But first we have to attend to how we’re showing up, and admit that perhaps it’s not our finest moment. Then as you say, you have choices. As do we all. Powerful stuff, Tony. And thank you again.

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